The topic of violating prisoner visitors is a hot button with me. More specifically, this topic is about prison guards eyeing prison visitors (women) and then making moves on them. It is appalling and infuriating that as an incarcerated male prisoner, the male guards would hit on and attempt to hook-up physically with a prisoners girlfriend or wife.
Recently, a friend of mine came to me visibly upset. His wife lives here in New York City and uses public transportation (the train) to come visit him. While waiting for the visiting room to open, she sat in a booth outside the prison. An officer (whom she doesn't know) comes into the booth, sits next to her, puts his hand on her thigh, and says:
"I see you up here [the prison]at visit often and you're a very pretty lady. If you ever don't want to take the train home, I could give you a ride."
The wife moved away, declined and then subsequently sat through the visit with her incarcerated husband. She then went home and couldn't keep this story secret from her husband anymore. She sent him an email describing the event and he came to me. I told him what I once did and how he should possibly proceed. What would you have done, if in his shoes, or in hers?
Prisoners are at a steep disadvantage. Many prisoners are afraid of retaliation, whereas written grievances against staff normally brings about discomfort for the prisoner. Some visitors have a basic comprehension of the prison culture, as in how complaints can be handled, limitations of communication and lack of privacy. But letting officers take a liberty they do not have is a violation of respect and much more.
What type of deranged person approaches a prisoners wife outside of the prison hoping for a chance at personal intimacy while violating the personal space barrier? Why contact the visitor before they come into the visiting room and take the risk of her telling the prisoner during their visit?
Groping a woman in public is enough to be convicted as a sexual deviant and predator. Doesn't this action classify the offender as a sex-offender? If not, it must be a breach of trust infraction for the officer to be in uniform or anyone else? In my opinion this offense is a sexual harassment charge for the federal official, which should give that officer six-months incarceration in the prisons general population.
Not only does federal prison provide very little, if any, positive opportunities, but families are strained by absence of additional income, torn leadership of children and much more. It's a shame prisoners must also worry about prison guards preying on the women they are trying to hold on to. It's no wonder, visitors dread coming to the prison.